Today we’re going to talk about how to identify your limiting beliefs so that we can handle them later in our limiting belief series. So what is a limiting belief? Well, all beliefs in general, are limiting limits are good, because they give you some structural framework.
And they cut off a lot of options that would otherwise create a whole bunch of chaos. A lot of people they will find beliefs that serve them who saying, Okay, I’m gonna stay out of, you know, social drama, or getting caught up in in bad situations, or I don’t want to hang out with these people or in these environments, by just avoiding people with these types of micro expressions, right?
So you get somebody who’s like, really shifty, and they’re particularly trustworthy, and then you kind of thin slice it, and you say, Okay, well, I’m just not gonna go have any intimacy with this person. And then I don’t have to get caught up and all the other bullshit, right? And that’s a limiting belief, right? If you take this belief, it’s like, this person is not going to be good for my social welfare, and I’m not gonna hang out with them, a limit your options in hanging out, and then it keeps you on track?
Well, most of these beliefs are limiting. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing. But when you’re not achieving your goals, because a belief system that keeps you from enacting the behavior that’s going to make you move forward, like for instance, when I first started doing YouTube, I did,
I was very scared that talking on camera was gonna make me look like an idiot. You know, later on, I realized that there are times where I look at, and there are times where I don’t, and it’s really not up to me, so whatever. But what it would do is, I would feel like, Okay, this isn’t good enough, so I’m not gonna release it.
And not even that, I just wouldn’t even shoot it, I’d be like, Alright, well, if I can’t get the script, good enough, I’m not gonna shoot the video, and then the video never goes out. And then I never get practice shooting it. And then I never get better at talking on camera, right.
So that was a limiting belief that stopped my behavior that kept me from getting forward to my goals. You have to change those, because those beliefs will keep you from moving forward, but keep a status quo, or they’ll even keep you sliding backwards into safety. And then he won’t pushing out of your comfort zones and growing and, and developing and maturing as a human and social space.
Exercise of Glory
So today’s exercise is, we’re going to give you a thought exercise that will allow you to identify your limiting beliefs. Because there is, a lot of times we’re not even aware of how our current belief systems are structured, they come from trauma, they come from early childhood, they come from our caretakers, and they just sort of run unconsciously, as we move forward through life, they just make decisions for us a couple of examples, like, my mom was definitely afraid of bees, she was anaphylaxis.
So she would walk out and she met these odds you flip out around bees. And so as I was growing up, I learned to be afraid of bees as well and develop a sort of phobia to them. And bees aren’t inherently bad. But it would keep me from like, going camping, right, I would not go because I think there’d be bees out there. I don’t like nature, right?
And then I wouldn’t go then I miss out a lot of experiences and the social times of friends and whatever that were, they were off doing those things. So as a belief, I eventually had to change. And I did it through flooding, which is a something we’ll deal with later on in the series. But some of those beliefs that I didn’t even know why I was afraid of shit, I just fucking flipped out. I just thought that’s how it is. and turns out it was a program that was installed in me very, very young age.
And sometimes we’re not even aware that those things exist and so we have to identify them before we can root them out and determine whether they’re still in the way of our goals or and we need to keep them around or we need to eradicate them or replace them with better belief systems. So the size is this want you to imagine your ideal scenario?
Well, the the guy walks through this last week was he wanted to, you know, approach a woman and then have the perfect thing happened where she, you know, looked up and adored him. And, you know, he got the number and she was really excited. And then they met up for a date, right? So I had him visualize this thing.
Yeah, you you see her from across the way or at the coffee shop, and then you make eye contact, and you look away real quick and come back, she’s still looking at you. So you walk up, and then you approach and, and then you say, some really intelligent shit.
And she giggles and gets kind of shy, but it’s really hopeful that you’re going to do something, and you can tell by her body language. And then, you know, you ask her for a number and you tell her, you’re going to take her out or whatever, you see the date and even forward, right.
And so I walk into this whole visualization. And then the problem is that as you go through your idealized visualization of what you want to have accomplish, there’s things that are in your mind that you know, that you can do. But you don’t end up doing them in real life, because little voice comes up in your head and says, Oh, no, yeah, but she’s gonna leave you anyway.
Or when she finds out who you really are, you’re gonna have you know, terrible relationships, why even go right? And, or you’re gonna say something stupid. So why even try, right? Those are the beliefs that are coming up from your subconscious that will interrupt your behavior, and keep you from moving out of your comfort zone.
Those are the things that you need to root out and fix, tweak so that you can still do the behavior that’s going to give you the proper reference experiences, to act correctly into the future. So I want you to listen to that voice. As you’re going through your ideal scenarios, like, Okay, I’m sitting there, and this guy walks in, and he looks at me and I look up, and I’m confident as fuck, because I’m an independent woman. And he walks over to talk to me, and I’m a little reserved, because I don’t want to seem too needy or whatever.
But, you know, he makes the move, and, you know, I get the butterflies and whatever. And then what’s going to happen is, your inner voice is going to say, Okay, well, yeah, but you know, all men are trash, because whatever, whatever comes up, you learn this somewhere, and you’re employing it subconsciously, what we want to do in this exercise is to bring your subconscious belief systems out to your conscious awareness. And so you write them down. Later on, we can look at those beliefs and see if they’re still serving you.
And if they’re not serving you, we’ll tweak them so that they can serve you better. If they are just completely pointless, then we can eradicate them entirely. And if there’s some things that are lingering, then you can use some higher level NLP methods to wipe them out of your brain on a subconscious level.
So today’s exercise is just to run through your ideal scenario, whatever it is socially, in dating and intimacy, or whatever we’ve used this successfully for. Sexual was the word like not erectile dysfunction, but like, sexual anxiety, right? So you get in, you know, and you’re naked with somebody new. And you’re like, I don’t know if I can perform well, like we’ve used successfully for that.
We use it successfully for most approach scenarios and dating scenarios. So just go through the thing and then see what your brain comes up with, as an excuse, on why you shouldn’t make the behavior that you’re doing in your ideal scenario. Once you write all those things down. If you learned anything, you had a hot aha moment.
But that shut down in the comments. We’ll try to respond to everything and keep that list with you. Because in the next couple of weeks, we’re going to be doing a whole thing on limiting beliefs. That’s gonna allow you to take those belief systems, tweak them, Mangle them, using a lot of Robert dilts stuff using a lot of was a Michael Hall.
Yeah, Michael Hall’s book is phenomenal on reframing those belief systems so that they serve you and and we’ll just kind of carry this on into a longer thing where you can actually tweak those things and fuck up the roadblocks you’ve got that are inside your subconscious.
So that’s today’s thing, finding out your limiting beliefs, how to establish your limiting beliefs. And tomorrow, I don’t know we’re doing we’re i’d slept for watching the election coverage. It’s like ridic So, do that thing and then tomorrow we’re talking about something and I’ll see you then. Until then, stay awesome.